To have face-to-face approach is more sensitive and personal way to interact with someone.However,not all of us feel comfortable doing so.
If you have problems with it,try to:
1. do preparation (use "dress code" and do all the necessary things before).Which means that you dress like "business man/woman".Many people still judge by someone's outfit (which is wrong,but still...),so because of them you have to look like they have image of a successful man/woman.
By doing the "necessary things before",I mean that you should avoid situation where,in the middle of conversation you say "Excuse me,I really have to go to the toilet".
2. "striking sentence".When approaching to someone you'll need to start conversation.By starting it you'll need something "strong" to attract their attention to the maximum possibly.However,different people pay attention to different stuff,so it's hard to make one unique starting sentence.Experiment with more and see results.
3. nice mood (smile).When smiling other are more likely to accept you.If you're uninterested or in a bad mood,think anyone will listen to you?
4. be polite (listen to them and show compassion).During the conversation people may often interrupt you with their questions,ideas,suggestions...listen to them,don't interrupt them (like they interrupted you),and don't allow that conversation turns into arguing.Try to avoid as much as possible.If you're seeing that it leads in that direction,better just stop and skip to another topic,then continue the "war".
5. beware of nonverbal communication.When talking there are some gestures we make,that actually tells more then we do (more then our words).
In spot of that,it is important to keep an eye contact.Look that person directly in the eyes.When talking and when listening.If you're talking and looking "somewhere" who knows where) it tells that you're not interested in what you're doing right now.And by that you're sending wrong message to your correspondent.
6. make comparison.Ask that person what is his idea of a great job?Or of ideal job.Ask if it might be the the job without the boss,without the strict working time,without much investment?Make comparison between the job (if any) he or she is working now,and the one you are offering.
7. expect unexpected.Conversation may have many twist and turns.However try to lead it in calm and positive way.Don't let it slips into open war.Also,be prepared that even if you explained almost everything you could and the conversation lasted "for hours" and despite all your effort - that someone still doesn't see himself/herself in that kind of business and that he/she will reject you.DON'T SHOW if you're offended,just keep smiling and thank them for the time they spared to talk to you.
8. practice.If you're shy to approach to unknown persons,then first practice on your friends.Or if you're really shy,then in front of the mirror.With more and more practicing (approaching more and more people) you will get the routine.Finally,you'll be able to talk in front of full hall!
A trick that some of successful people are doing,when talking to the full hall:they are not talking to all,they are talking to their friends in the audience.Yes,if you look better,they are talking to maybe 4-5-6 persons (friends),and all the rest are somewhere "there",listening to him.That may keep you calm.
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To have face-to-face approach is more sensitive and personal way to interact with someone.However,not all of us feel comfortable doing so.
If you have problems with it,try to:
1. do preparation (use "dress code" and do all the necessary things before).Which means that you dress like "business man/woman".Many people still judge by someone's outfit (which is wrong,but still...),so because of them you have to look like they have image of a successful man/woman.
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